The home of Ben Caleb Rose:
a writer of copy and nonfiction –
and a damn good lover
a hot brew,
and a chocolate biscuit.
I have not long completed the end of a Creative Writing BA (Hons) degree at Arts University Bournemouth. When I entered the course, I thought of myself as a writer of fantasy-fiction and country songs. However, I soon started exploring, growing confident, and falling in love with a variety of other writing forms – two of which (nonfiction and copywriting) are now crucial to who I am as a writer.
Furthermore, when turning to these forms, I cannot help but draw upon my passion and interest for psychology – mainly that which tackles the subjects of family, parenting, and adolescence. These, among others, are key subjects I discuss in my current work-in-progress – a memoir-and-advice book: 9 Months, My Arse (and the ‘Arse’ that is Adult-Adolescence – a Product of Chaos). For me, no matter the writing medium, people are your audience – so, why not try to understand them the best I/we can?
I lost my extreme-premature son 8 days after he was born at 23 weeks and 4 days gestation. The chaos that ensued encouraged me to write as healing. Now, I have returned to this writing to tell the story of how such an event changed me as a person and gave me a wider sense of adolescence – something I call ‘adult-adolescence’ in the book. This project, in its current form, is called: 9 Months, My Arse (and the ‘Arse’ that is Adult-Adolescence – a Product of Chaos).
9 Months, My Arse:
9 Months, My Arse (and the ‘Arse’ that is Adult-Adolescence – a Product of Chaos) talks about how ‘chaos’ (moments in your life that utterly rattle your normality – in my case, having, and losing, an extreme-premature baby) often leads to ‘adult-adolescence’ – a significant change in your adult-self. With this in mind, I open up about how I felt, handled, and bounced-back after everything my partner and I went through in our chaos. In its current rendition, the structure of the book is as follows:
- Introduction – a brief introduction to the two concepts, ‘chaos’ and ‘adult-adolescence’.
- Welcome to Oxfordshire! (The place that will make you, break you, and leave you to make yourself once more) – a 20K story retelling the events surrounding our extreme-premature son. It starts with the night before his birth, primarily focusing on the eight days we spent in the unit, and concludes with (or near to) our present day.
- Rising from the Chaos: Made, Broken and Left to be Made Once More – a 30-40K word section where I explain all the factors that went into our grief, recovery, and new normality that followed. Some of the chapters in this section include the likes of: CIRCLES, where I talk about how I visualised my partner and I as the ‘bullseye’, and the different members of our ‘bubbles of origin’ as the circles around us; CHANNELLING CHAOS AND CHANGE, where I explain how we channelled our thoughts, feelings, and memories into activities and creations (such as writing, crafting, or reading) and how channelling can suit anyone going through chaos and adult-adolescence; and THE IDEA AND THE REALITY, where I discuss how we were mourning two different things – the reality of who our extreme-premature son was, and the idea of he we had thought he might become.
Contact: Ben Caleb Rose
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